Have you been thinking about seeing a counsellor, but wondering if it is really something that you could benefit from?
Isn’t it only for people dealing with a crisis?
Sometimes when things get a bit tough and we think about getting help, we can also start to doubt that it will be useful. Everyone needs help sometimes. It doesn’t have to be a ‘major life crisis’ or a very serious issue that leads you to seek counselling.
If you have people close to you that can help you, that is great news. But there are times when our closest friends and family are not able to help us. Sometimes talking to someone who is impartial to the situation is just what is needed.
People seek counselling for many different reasons, and it doesn’t always have to be a long term commitment either. You may find that just a few sessions are all you need, and other times you may see a counsellor for up to a few months or even longer. That can be something that you and your counsellor work out together.
It’s just ‘everyday stress’, right?
Everyone gets stressed and stress is a normal part of life. But there are times when our ‘every day stress’ can become more difficult to manage than usual. Perhaps our coping methods aren’t working as well anymore, or the number of stressful things we’re dealing with at one time is starting to feel overwhelming.
Stress is probably one of the biggest factors that can affect our mental health and wellbeing. Just some of the every day events that have been identified as the Top 20 Most Stressful Life Events are things like: starting a new job, getting married, relationship reconciliation, retirement, falling pregnant – planned or unplanned, gaining a new family member, starting or finishing school, changing schools, getting a mortgage, and/or moving to a new home.
But these are all positive things, right? They’re not meant to be stressful.
Well, as it happens, stress works in mysterious ways and impacts all of us every single day. Each one of us can experience stress differently but there is no doubt that it DOES have an impact. We might consider these things to be positive and often exciting life events, but when you’re experiencing a number of them either all at the same time or one right after the other, it is very likely to take a toll on your mental health and wellbeing. A counsellor can help you to work through these stressful times and find ways to cope.
How can counselling help?
Just a few of the ways that counselling can help are; to consider different ways of coping (and help you work out if your current ways are working), to view a situation from a different perspective, to make difficult decisions, to find hope, to work through a difficult situation, to motivate and guide you, and to help you find ways to look after your overall wellbeing during these difficult times.
It goes without saying that counselling is also recommended for those who are experiencing a major life crisis or serious issue such as; relationship breakdown, depression, anxiety, addiction, domestic violence, physical injury or illness, anger issues, trauma, abuse, loss of a loved one, or self harming and suicide.
There are many different types of counsellors out there, and if you’re curious about that then please watch this space for my future blog posts titled ‘Psychologists, psychiatrists, social workers, and counsellors – What’s the difference?’ and ‘How to find the right counsellor’.
Please note: Most general counselling services do not offer crisis or emergency services. If you feel like you need to talk to someone urgently, please call Lifeline on 13 11 14 for 24 hour crisis support. https://www.lifeline.org.au/